Millman’s True Fictions

I’ve read and re-read an extremely fine essay on adoption a number of times since it was first published in First Things in 2004. Recently it came over the transom again, and I thought it a fitting piece for Christmas:

About two-and-a-half years ago, my wife and I sat in a lawyer’s office trying not to think too deeply about the decision we were then making: to seek to adopt a child. As we sat there, listening to the litany of options for how to bring home a stranger’s baby, a joke occurred to me. What is the difference between families today and families a century ago? A century ago, to start a family you’d hire a professional to find you a spouse, and by doing what comes naturally you’d make a baby. Today, to start a family you go about doing what comes naturally in hopes of finding a spouse, and then hire a professional to find you a baby.

Well, a few people still do it the old-fashioned way, but I think he makes a good point. What follows is a beautiful reflection on the meaning of fatherhood; read it here.

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